“Focusing has been so good for me, a way to keep in touch with my body process and all that goes on in the many parts of me, parts that have learned a certain way of acting for reasons that present themselves for me to discover in a new way. For example, I get headaches and I hate headaches yet often they have been teachers to me. A certain part of me puts pressure on another part of me to act like I know what I’m doing. When I act that way, I get the headache. I listen. Other parts may not have a clue of how to act. If I can pause and listen gently to these parts and keep my presence, the headache will shift. It is a practice for me, an ongoing practice.
This is growing a new sense of embodied listening presence slowly. I so love what Gendlin says “what is true is already so, and owning up to it doesn’t make it worse. Not being open about it doesn’t make it go away, and because its true, it is what is there to be interacted with…” This phrase often will bring me to pause and be more present.”